Are you generally optimistic, or trying to be more so? In this time of turmoil in our country, even the most optimistic of us are struggling. I feel like we all must take responsibility for our own way of thinking. But, it doesn't help when the people around us are natural pessimists or mostly see the glass as half empty?
If you are old enough, you may remember a song recorded by the Animals entitled, Don't Bring Me
Down. The "voice" in the song is asking someone else to change so he doesn't feel bad about himself. What he doesn't realize is that he has a choice as to whether he lets the other person influence his life. You do too.
Here are a few ways to maintain your optimism when it is threatened by someone else:
- When you become aware that someone is bringing you down, silently remind yourself that her point of view is based on her life and temperament, not yours.
- If you're with someone who is complaining or griping, don't join in (even if you agree). It's another case of when your ears hear words coming out of your mouth any feelings associated with the words are intensified.
- If you live with a pessimist, make sure you have friends that look at the world optimistically. Like pessimism, optimism can "rub off" on you.
- Excuse yourself from a conversation that is bringing you down. You can choose not to participate.
Remember, striving to be optimistic is your choice. You have no control over anyone else but you do have control over you.
