Feeling overwhelmed?
Can't catch a break?
Nothing seems to be going your way?
If you are having one of those days, weeks, or months, this tip is for you.
Instead of reciting to yourself, or others, the list of things that are stressing you out, try listing the things that are going right. Unless one is suffering from a major depressive episode or a recent loss, most of us can find something good.
Your list can start seriously with the real things that are going right like:
- Even though my head hurts, my feet don't.
- I don't know where the mortgage payment will come from but at least no one in the family is sick.
- My spouse is really getting on my nerves but at least I know he or she will be there in a pinch.
- Stress at work is getting me down but it's not raining and I can get outside for a breather.
Once you have gotten some "at least....." on your list, then begin adding things to your list that in a more positive or funny way:
- I have good friends.
- My dog loves me.
- I have food to eat today.
- I'm having a good hair day.
- No one has "unfriended" me on Facebook lately.
I'm not making light of your troubles. I am suggesting a way that you can get some relief during a time that is challenging. Self care even for a few minutes is better than none.